The Holy Spirit - Our Help

I am sure we have all heard about the 50% divorce rate amongst secular and Christian marriages. As I witness this statistic live out in the marriages of my friends, I am both burdened and angered.I am burdened because I can only imagine how our Father feels as He watches his precious institution continue to fail under the attack of the enemy. Likewise, I am angered for the same reason, the attack of the enemy, and I wish he would leave us all alone!As I cried out in my prayer time, “Lord, how and when will this get better?” In response, God reminded me that He has equipped us for the work (2 Peter 1:3). He has left us a helper, in the Holy Spirit.So, then I asked, “So, why God are we failing”. He said that we are not imploring or employing our help.

To implore means to beg urgently, as for aid or mercy (dictionary.com).As wives, we can not underestimate the power of asking the Holy Spirit to come into our lives to give us wisdom to perform the tasks we are commanded to do. In Matthew 7:7a, the Bible tells us to “ask and it shall be given to us…”.So, even though the Holy Spirit has been given to us for help, we still need to ask Him for help with our tasks, such as submitting to our husbands.As women, we are trained by media that submission is an ugly word and is unnecessary. However, in order to be pleasing to God, we must submit to our husbands; and we must remember that we can’t define when it is and is not okay to submit. We must seek God for wisdom.Another task that we need to implore the Holy Spirit for help is to love our husbands.The world’s way of loving and God’s way of loving is totally different. Lori Moss, the author of My Heavenly Father’s Eyes, stated that in order to love our husbands the way God has called us to, we need the help of the Holy Spirit. The world says that we can stop loving when we don’t feel loved, but God tells us in 1 Corinthians 13:4 that love is patient. The world tells us that we don’t have to love those who are mean to us, but 1 Corinthians 13:4 tells us that love is kind. The world tells us that we can act according to how we feel, but 1 Corinthians 13:5 tells us that love is not self-seeking.This is the type of love that is pleasing to God, and it can be done with the help of the Holy Spirit.I recommend that as a wife, you start every day in prayer, imploring the Holy Spirit to help you throughout the day to do the things, as a wife that is pleasing to God.

Not only should we implore the Holy Spirit, but we should also employ the Holy Spirit. To employ means to make use of. What good is it to have the Holy Spirit as a help if we are not making us of Him?It’s like hiring a person to fix your computer, but you don’t allow the person to fix the computer, yet you continue to stress over your broken computer. It doesn’t make sense in the natural and likewise in the spiritual. We continue to stress over situations; try to fight spiritual battles in our own strength; and continue to make foolish decisions and reap the consequences, as the Holy Spirit patiently sit by, tapping his foot (I imagine), waiting to be put to work.One of my most favorite scriptures is Ephesians 3:20, where I am reminded, and I use to remind others that God is able to do exceedingly and abundantly above all we can ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us.We are asking and believing God for some things in our marriages, with confidence knowing that God is able to perform; however, we forget the work we have to do. So, I encourage you as a wife, to employ the Holy Spirit.Employ Him by spending time in prayer, reading and meditating on God’s word, continually asking God to purge you and make you clean, and by spending time with other believing wives who will speak life (the Word of God) into you and your marriage.

Let’s make up in our minds that we are going to be wives who are pleasing to God, and we are going to be victorious in this war by imploring and employing our help, the Holy Spirit!